
Pamela Stephenson Connolly
Pamela Stephenson Connolly is patron of COSRT (College of Sexual and Relationship Therapists) corst.org.uk
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We were very sexually active for our first two years together. But there’s no passion any more, and I need more than her occasional: ‘We should have sex tonight’
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I’ve tried showing him what I like in bed, but it hasn’t helped, and now I actively avoid sex. After 12 years of an otherwise wonderful partnership, I don’t know what else to do
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He says he lacked confidence in his previous relationship and has been rejected many times, but his silence has me worried. How can I make him feel more confident?
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We had a passionate sex life when we first met, but since moving in together, things have changed a lot, leaving me feeling rejected
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While we were all looking through old family images, up popped one of my husband in all his glory. Should we discuss this with our 13-year-old or pretend it never happened?
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I’ve had a string of failed relationships and I’ve been devastated by an ex-partner’s revelation and an STI diagnosis. I can’t imagine anyone would want to sleep with me again
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He has been wonderfully supportive as I have recovered from an abusive relationship. But now I want to get back to the sexually confident woman I used to be
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I am in my early 40s; she is in her mid-50s. We don’t want to betray our partners – will that end badly?
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I am too embarrassed to talk to my partner, but think we have both noticed that something has changed. What can I do?
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After 14 years together, we have a supportive relationship – with three kids, and plenty of friends – but sexually it has always been dismal. A chance meeting with an ex-boyfriend has awakened feelings I had almost forgotten
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I moved in with my new partner just before lockdown. Her high libido has led me to take medication – and made me fearful for our future
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I’ve slept with four men and have been unable to reach orgasm or get any pleasure. Now I feel as if I can’t do anything right
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I’d feel there was something missing in a long-term heterosexual relationship, but am concerned I am not attracted enough to men to have a monogamous gay relationship
Topics
Sexual healing I split with my partner after he lied about using porn – have I overreacted?